Sordid conversations about Sex?

Actually, I have a problem with sex being considered sordid in the first place. Let's examine some definitions from Dictionary.com so I can make fun of a comment left on a previous entry about sordid sex:

1) Filthy or dirty; foul.

Sorry, but I tend to shy away from sex if it is filthy or dirty. Just not my cup of tea...I like clean sex...a nice sensual bath is a great way to start things off, for instance. Foul sex? I guess really bad sex could be considered foul...or sex with say, oh, Bill Clinton? (sorry...I promise not to get political for the rest of this entry...)

2) Depressingly squalid; wretched: sordid shantytowns.

If sex is depressing, then there are problems with the relationship. I have to say that yes, I have had wretched sex before...and yes, it was due to a bad relationship...but darn if I want to talk about that when sex is far too much fun and exciting to dwell on the bad experiences.

3) Morally degraded: “The sordid details of his orgies stank under his very nostrils” (James Joyce).

Wow...a quote from Joyce to support a definition. Knowing Joyce, there's no telling what he meant by the term sordid! Just spend a few hours with Finnegan's Wake to understand what I'm talking about...

Morally degraded, eh? The problem here is that I don't tend to accept the typical moral structures of society. Morals are quite personal, though most people tend to define their personal morals via a higher authority (religion, typically). Anyway, in my world, any sex I'd want to talk about wouldn't be morally wrong since I don't accept those morals dictated by those higher authorities. Mind you, there IS morally wrong sex (sex with a child, for instance) - but I have no interest in talking about that, unless I get pissed-off enough about some situation where it is occurring...

4) Exceedingly mercenary; grasping

Oooh...that's a good one! Frankly, any sex that can be described like this must be describing as sex done by a sex mercenary (a prostitute). Not my cup of tea - I prefer believing my partner is having a good time and I just can't suspend my disbelief enough to think that a prostitute is really having a good time. Same problem for me at strip clubs - I know the almighty dollar is the focus of that woman shaking her money maker(s)...and that she doesn't give a damn about performing for me unless it makes her some green.

And speaking of that...I was amongst a group of slightly drunken revelers the other night and they decided that we all should go to a strip club. I figured, "why not?" But I was really annoyed by what I saw there - the art of stripping is nonexistent! The women would gyrate to a song with their dress on...then when the song ended, they'd walk off to the side of the stage and uncermoniously strip to a G-string, then go back to dancing. It was horribly un-sexy! These women looked like they were sleep-walking through everything in a grindingly mechanical manner. I'm amazed anyone was turned on...maybe I needed to me more drunk...

So, sordid - no. At least not for me. Mind you, the person who posted the request for sordid sex info has a moral structure that is based on more mainstream codes than mine. So sex may very well be sordid at times for them. In all honesty, I'll bet that makes it more exciting in a way...